It’s not about knowing everything about fashion or following the latest trends. That’s what most people think of when they think of fashion. Sure, knowing the latest trends shows that you keep up with current events and following the latest trends shows that you have access to some financial resources (it’s expensive following the latest trends). But that’s a lot of effort for relatively little return. This short dating manual excerpt will help you dress well to date women you want.
It’s about what looks good on you, and more importantly what makes you look good. Most importantly, it’s about what it communicates about you. The way you dress should communicate something about your lifestyle. The following are some general guidelines that work for a large majority of men. For some men there may be certain social stereotypes they may be targeting (eg: for wannabe Japanese girls, dressing like a japanese pop star would score you major points) but making a list of all these niches would be unproductive.
1. Wear clothes that fit
Clothes that fit are essential when it comes to being able to attract women. A person wearing loose clothes shows that they may not be comfortable with their figure (either they think they’re too slim or too fat). A person wearing tight clothing shows that they are comfortable with themselves and can imply comfort with sexuality. This is important for building attraction in women. As mentioned in the beginning, it’s what your clothes communicate about you that really matters. As such, wearing a form fitting $10 plain shirt can look much better than an oversized $200 shirt.
If you can afford it, I recommend that you also tailor your clothes that don’t fit EXACTLY. If they fit exactly already, that’s ok. But otherwise, tailoring can help clothes fit you better, which then helps you attract women and date women.
2. Each accessory should communicate a story
This is a good way to get conversations started and continued. By wearing interesting items of clothing, you give women who want to talk with you an excuse to start a conversation. By having a story behind the item of clothing instead of it just being a “cool item”, it gives you great conversation material for talking with women you want to date.
For example, in my hotel room last night with two cute asian girls, one girl asked me about my belt. I told her it was a gift from a third girl who knew I was lacking a belt. This shows that I know other girls, and that other girls I know hold me in high regard (enough to give me gifts). This significantly helps in attracting women.
3. Calibrate to situation and audience
In order to figure out how to get what you want in terms of dating women, you first have to understand what it is that you want. If you’re trying to date asian girls who are conservative, you want to wear something that they will find attractive. If you’re going for goth punk rockers, you want to wear something they will find attractive.
Also you have to consider the situation. Wearing dress shirts with big G-chains while trying to meet women in the library, you stand out in a bad way as they may think you are just there to meet women. Wearing pajamas to a high end nightclub shows lack of social calibration and you probably won’t even be able to get in to meet the women inside, so much harder for you to date these women.
4. It’s all in the details
If it looks like it took a lot of effort to make, it’s considered good (keeping taste in mind, of course). When it comes to dating women, details matter. Women notice details on clothing more than men, and additionally, they try to interpret those details. Wearing a piece of clothing with fancy complicated designs (hopefully in good taste) implies higher financial position, all else being equal. A fancy design on a shirt is not a “necessity” for a shirt since the main goal is to cover you and keep you warm. So the fancy design is considered an extra, and it implies that if you’re able to obtain extras then you must be well off enough that you’re not worried about getting the necessities.
This is a major reason why women wear high heels. High heels are not very productive; they make it hard to walk and have bad balance compared to more productive shoes. Yet this is a major reason that women will wear them since it implies higher social status (that they don’t need to any laborious tasks and lead a luxurious life). You should keep in mind this concept not only when learning to attract women but also in all social situations. Be aware of what you indirectly communicate by what you do, dress, and say.
5. How to dress on a budget
My dating manual understands that you may not want to spend a lot of money. These tips reflect that same principle of my dating manual. Even if you’re well off financially, I believe that saving money when possible is a good thing.
It is better to have 2 good outfits you wear often than 50 outfits that look bad and you wear rarely. So instead of getting dozens of average shirts and average jeans, I recommend you get a few outfits that are great instead. You don’t really need a pair of jeans for each day of the week. You can wear the same pair of pants more than once before washing. Shirts are a bit harder to wear more than once in a row, but you can just alternate shirts.
Next is using “core dressing”. Have one or two items that are “core” to your outfit. For example, a jacket or a blazer. Next you dress around that. You can wear different jeans, different shirts, etc. but the item that people associate you with, the core item, is still there. This allows you to cut down on the amount of outfits you buy while still looking good.
I hope these fashion tips serve you well. I occasionally get compliments on my clothing, and I didn’t spend a lot of time reading GQ or men’s magazines trying to copy fashion. I just followed these basic tips to find out what looks good on me. I also don’t spend much on my fashion. The current outfit I’m wearing as I’m typing this which got a compliment last night, I got for under $30 CDN (tho the belt was a gift).